One of the most difficult things a person may have to deal with at some point in their life is a false accusation. I have struggled to handle this issue for a very long time even when I had received Christ as my personal Lord and savior. God knows I have had my fair share of these in my life and its one of those things that made me beyond angry. I’m sure a lot of people have had to endure the pain this brings and can relate. This can happen anywhere and to anyone but the saddest thing is sometimes it can happen in the house of God, in families and even in close relationships.
Dealing with a false accusation can be very challenging because as we all know lies spread faster than truth. Sometimes you find yourself trying to defend or explain yourself to so many people out of desperation to prove your innocence. One thing that God has taught me over the years since my salvation journey with him started is, when I’m faced with a ‘difficult to contain situation‘, i have to be still, quiet and fix my eyes on the one who knows the truth, the one who is TRUTH, Jesus. For nothing under the sun is hidden from him. At first my response to God would be, ”how can I keep quiet, I didn’t do anything God! You know I didn’t do anything! I have to say something God. Look, they keep telling lies, they are not stopping!”. I thought it would Be better for me to say something and stand up for myself because i was afraid God would not do a good job at defending me. After all if i said or did something its quickly done and dusted, i get my own pound of flesh, i get my satisfaction and can move on with my life, right? Wrong! I failed to realise that God knew all the intricate details of the story, he sees everything and he is everywhere. He was there when that person/people were conspiring against me and i wasn’t. So is it not better for the one who was there and heard everything to fight for me than for me to fight for myself? I asked myself. The more I tried to speak the worse the situation got. This is when I remembered the verse (prov 13:3 He who keeps his mouth keeps his life).I realised that this battle was too big for me and I was not going to be able to run around and tell everyone of my innocence. I was not going to win this if i stood on my own and leaned on my own understanding. So in that excruciating pain I was in, I got out of God’s way and chose to trust Him to fight for me. I surrendered my battle to him. I listened to his instruction to be quiet and be still but in my bleeding heart I would always pray psalm 109, “do not be silent, oh God of my praise, for the mouths of the wicked and the mouths of the deceitful have opened up against me…!’’ He replied, ““The Lord will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace.” (Exodus 14:14). I started practicing discipline in the midst of that chaos; boy oh boy did God start fighting for me. God showed up for me in such a way that it left my jaw on the floor. The truth will always come to light even if it takes years; truth always prevails in the end. The Truth will always outshine the lies just like how light consumes the darkness.
Understanding The Other Side
I have often wondered what exactly will be going on in someone’s mind for them to utter lies or false accusations against someone? Then I read the word of God, Revelations 12 describes the devil as the accuser of brethren and he accuses people day and night. He is the master of all lies. So wherever, whenever there is lies told, the devil is also present with his wife, kids, cousins and descendants. So this verse has helped me to understand that when people accuse you falsely they have allowed themselves to be used by the devil and allowed themselves to be part of that family i have mentioned above. When people feel the need to falsely accuse someone, this is an indication that the spirit of God is not in them (prov 12:22 lying lips are an abomination to the Lord… Psalm 101:7 No one who practices deceit will dwell in my house and no one who speaks falsely /tells lies will stand in my presence)
I have also come to the understanding that when a person makes a false accusation or manufactures lies to get their own way, the problem is with them and not the accused. People do this for a lot of reasons and mostly selfish ones (this is excluding those that are tortured into telling lies of course), jealousy, inferiority complex, something lacking in that person’s life, so they fill that inflicting pain on another will make them appear good or helps them to feel better and happier about themselves. Some are just consumed with anger and hatred and cannot control themselves. All of this usually stems from wounded souls, spiritual scars that have not been properly dressed, past trauma, broken hearts, hopelessness, anger and bitterness. Whatever their reasons may be just know that the problem is not you but them and until they decide to deal with their inner issues, they will continue to hurt others.
My message for you today is if you are facing this situation today just know that there are so many people who have gone through the same situation you are in right now, some more than others, but they survived. If they survived this, so can you. (1 Peter 5:9…Standing firm in faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings….)but God promises to restore you, make you strong, firm and steadfast. Stop carrying the burden of anger, resentment and guilt over something that was done by someone else. Set yourself free. Holding on to what someone else did to you will stop you from moving forward, it stops you from flourishing and you run the risk of ending up in the same position as your accuser; angry, bitter and you can begin to hurt others as well if you let it consume you. Allow God to deal with it. When God deals with it, he does it so perfectly that you will never have to revisit that issue again.
Have a Forgiving Heart
Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things to do but it is necessary in the healing process. Holding on to hurt and holding grudges hinders your healing greatly. It hurts you more than the person who did the hurting. Let it go, give it to God and move on.
Matthew 6:14-15 For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
Be The Peace Maker
Where possible, be the bigger person, try to talk it out with your accuser, pursue peace. If the other person does not want to talk it out, its still ok. Every case is different. Some you just got to love from a distance but make sure your heart is at peace and right before God. Ask God to create in you a clean heart (psalm 51:10)
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”says the Lord.
As hard as it maybe, let it go! Give it to God. Give your heart a chance to heal.